by: Sarah Hall M.A. LPCC-S
The last time we were together I posed two questions, “What is your why and what is your purpose?” These are two of the most critical questions to ask yourself for living out who God created you to be. Your purpose is what you were you were created to be or do and your why is likened to the support beams to help uphold your purpose, the foundation. Your why exists with the end in mind, the end that your purpose will accomplish. Knowing your why gives you the strength to continue on despite circumstances or opposition you may encounter on life’s journey.
- It is the WHY that gets you back up when you are knocked down.
- It is the WHY that keeps you up at night or wakes you early—“grinding” while others are sleeping.
- It is the WHY that helps you to drown out the naysayers in your life.
- It is the WHY that keeps you going when others would have already quit by now.
If you don’t have a WHY then you will sleep when others sleep, the opposition will overtake you, you will succumb to the negativity of all your naysayers, and you will quit when you fall! Your WHY is the catalyst to fulfilling your God-given purpose. I knew from a young age I was created to help others, it was built into the fiber of my being. My mother often tells a story of when I was a child, I would try to give visitors that came to our house everything out of our cabinets and refrigerator. She said that I was the most hospitable hostess. As I grew older, I continued to notice this gnawing in my heart to do something for a living that would help others. I pursued my degree in Psychology and right upon graduation, I found myself working in child welfare protecting kids and promoting families. Even after all of this hard work, I still felt like there was more. Therefore, I pursued my master’s degree in counseling. For years, even as a child, I would say that I wanted to be a therapist and I was finally on my way!
I worked full time and went to school in the evening, then surprise, my first son was born. Boy! I was not ready for the challenge of going to school, working full time, being a new mom, ministry in the church, internship, and a wife. Yes, my cup runneth over! I will not lie, it was very hard and I even had times when I wanted to quit. I remember sitting on my couch and calling my mother sobbing. I told her I was quitting because this was all too much. At that moment, I allowed my Why to slip away from me. Thankfully, my mom is one of my biggest cheerleaders and she gave me a “talking to”. Needless to say that talk immediately snapped me out of my emotional response and reminded me of my why. I wanted to be in a position to help people find wholeness, forgiveness, joy, sense of worth, and purpose. In order for me to do so, I had to finish what I started.
Today I am a living testimony of what God can do when you stick through the rough spots and grow into what God created you to be. I do not write this to say it was easy, because it was not. This long journey took a lot of faith, commitment, and persistence but today I am walking in my purpose. You have to be more committed to your purpose than the commitment of the enemy to destroy your destiny. I would like to challenge you today – if you have not already identified your WHY, start the process this week!
- Write it down. Research suggests people are more likely to achieve their goals by not only talking about them but writing them down. So on your bad days, when you have no energy, or you just want to quit, you have your WHY staring you in the face to remind you of what your end goal is.
- Secondly, find an accountability partner who will help to remind you of your why when you become distracted or discouraged.
- Lastly, be intentional with your time, and relationships, if they do not align with your purpose or why, say no! It is really ok.
The great Rocky Balboa once said, “Every champion was once a contender that refused to give up”. I challenge you, my friend, to know your WHY, be committed to your purpose and NEVER give up because you are a champion!
Sarah Hall M.A. LPCC-S
is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and a contributing content creator for Equipped!
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