Free From Fear
by: Sarah Hall M.A. LPCC-S
Jim Rohn once said,
“If you are not willing to risk the usual, you will have to settle for the ordinary”.
For some people, ordinary is ok, they strive for the ordinary life. I can’t blame them, actually. There is something very comforting in knowing what your day holds, a dog, 2.5 kids, and a white picket fence — The American Dream. You go to college, upon graduation you get a good job, do your 30 years, get your gold watch, and retire. It is the same routine, day in and day out. But as I got older, I realized, someone has fed me a lie.
Many people go to college and can’t get a job in their field. They end up doing something completely different from what they went to school for or are stuck in a career they are miserable in. Maybe some are stuck doing that thing which they are not passionate about. Call me Pollyanna, but I believe there is no reason we cannot do what we are passionate about and live a fulfilled life of purpose.
The reality is, there are real-life barriers to people living out their purpose and passion. I believe the number one barrier is Fear. To be honest, I had not thought about it before, but the Bible uses the words “Do not be afraid” or similar words over 300 times. Some scholars even say 365 times, that is one for every day of the year. I had to ask myself this question,
“What are you scared of?”
Being the “strong” woman that I am, I had a very hard time admitting I was scared. Fear kept me as a prisoner, tied to a desk, pursuing someone else’s vision for my life, comfortable with the ordinary. I had no problem at all encouraging others to reach for their dreams. I had no problem saying, “you can do anything!” I was the best cheerleader you could find.
I firmly believed it for others, but struggled to take the chains of fear off my own dreams and tied to fear was its cousin pride.
Now that was a hard pill to swallow, because I knew I did not have pride in my heart, or so I believed. But a loving mentor told me during one of our conversations, “Girl you need to let that go, that ain’t nothing but pride”. You could have knocked me over with a feather! After I finally swallowed that big horse pill, I had to thank her and thank God for loving me enough to send someone who I could accept the message from.
We’ve heard the saying, “you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free”. The words of truth that she spoke were the key that unlocked the chains fear had on me. I would no longer be concerned with what other’s were thinking about me. I would no longer be bound by the opinion of man. I would no longer be afraid to fail. It totally changed my whole way of thinking. What I “preached” to others went from head knowledge to heart knowledge. So I ask you, “What is holding you back?”
- Is it fear of failure?
- Is it pride?
- Fear of the opinions of others?
Don’t allow fear to rob you of your dreams, passion, or purpose!
Sarah Hall M.A. LPCC-S
is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and a contributing content creator for Equipped!
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