When it comes to Confidence let’s first establish that we are not talking about a destination, but a journey where we never settle for less than God’s Plan of Wholeness!
There are three things we can observe from the lives of those who are living with confidence.
(1) Accurate Self-Assessment
Accurate is the key word here, no one is good at everything. I know cooking is not my best skill and I know that I am not a vocalist (this may be an understatement). Therefore, if I tried to make my career as a chef or a singer, I may end up disappointed and frustrated with life. At the same time, I have learned what my greatest strengths are and endeavor to live life leaning into these areas!
The key to taking an assessment of ourselves, is to not get stuck overanalyzing ourselves. Paul says to think of ourselves with sober judgment: “Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.” Romans12:3 NIV
It’s important to remember this: humility is not about thinking little of yourself, but thinking of yourself less often. One thing we teach in Equipped is this: “I need to understand ‘Me’ and my significance, but more importantly I need to engage with the understanding that it’s not all about me.”
When is the last time you took an accurate self-assessment?
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(2) Envision the Win
Most of the individuals that we would describe as successful people tell stories of failure after failure before reaching their success. These individuals believed they would ultimately win, and failure was not an option. Consider a basketball player, how good would they be if they never envisioned winning the game; do they step onto the court with loosing as an option? When a child is learning to walk what do we say? “Come on! You can do it!” Even after they have fallen 100 times, we still say, “Come on! You can do it!” Why do we do this? We are fully convinced the child will walk because they were born with the ability to walk.
Scripture teaches us over and over to envision the win.
Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. Mark 11:24 NIV
- I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, ‘Look! God’s dwelling place is now among the people, and he will dwell with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God.” Revelation 21: 2-3 (This is a pretty big vision of “the win” if you ask me)
- The LORD will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the LORD your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom.”Deuteronomy 28:13
Have you set winning or losing in front of your eyes?
(3) Promote others
Truly confident individuals don’t need to put others down in order to feel better about themselves. Those who are insecure will criticize others in an attempt to prove their worth. Rest assured, we never need to pull others down in order to build ourselves up. Try making these things a part of your life:
- Embrace your own Identity: Check out our sample lesson on Identity for more help with this (click here)
- Celebrate the victories that others have.
- Be honest in prayer. This may sound a little weird, but this is what I mean. Confess the raw and ugly emotions that you are tucking deep inside; say them out loud. You may have to come to this place several times but I promise that eventually, our hearts align with God’s heart. Once this happens the thoughts of jealousy and insecurity no longer plague us.
Do nothing from rivalry or conceit,but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests,but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:3-4
This is what the Sovereign LORD, the Holy One of Israel, says: “Only in returning to me and resting in me will you be saved. In quietness and confidence is your strength. But you would have none of it. Isaiah 30:15 NLT